Hi gals! I just wanted to let you all know what's going on over here. I've been pretty much MIA all week, sorry about that. If you ordered something through this week, it will just be arriving a day later than usual. I apologize for the inconvenience.
Ok, last Friday late evening the doctor told us Grandpa was dying and to make sure all the family came and said their good byes over the weekend. Well Lexi and I went there Friday night about 10pm and stayed til around 12am. Saturday and Sunday we were there for about 8 hours on each day. Monday everything was crazy here from being gone all weekend, so I played catch up. Late Monday evening I stopped by the nursing home for about an hour. His condition slowly declined through the days. Friday he was responsive and was saying his good byes to everyone. Saturday he was consumed with worry about grandma. He kept saying how much he couldn't stand leaving her and sad things like that. Sunday he was to the point where he no longer had the strength to talk, but would squeeze your hand if you talked to him. Monday night he just slept. Tuesday was another crazy day b/c I have class on Tuesdays. I had promised that I would go to class and not worry about coming by the
nursing home. Well about 11am in the morning I got this really strange feeling that I needed to be at the nursing home. I waited til about 1:30pm and went down. When I got there, mom, my aunt, and grandma were the only ones there. I sat down with Lexi and they began to fill me in on the day. Well about 5 minutes later the hospice nurse came in. She started talking to us about taking the oxygen mask off b/c she knew grandpa had hated it. She explained that the oxygen wasn't breathing for him, just letting him breath a little easier. She said in her experience if we did take off the mask and turn off the oxygen, he would still breath the same percentage (?). As she was talking we noticed a change in grandpa's breathing. He would stop breathing for about 5-6 seconds, then start breathing normally again. We asked what was happening and she said it was just apnea (spell?). She said that in the last stages of death, their breathing changes. So anyways, she said not to
worry it was normal. So she asked if she could turn off the oxygen so he could be as comfortable as possible. Hesitantly grandma and mom agreed. My aunt wouldn't say yes or no. They turned off the oxygen and grandpa's chest raised really high in the air, then sank back down, then he started breathing normally. It was like he took a big sigh of relief. Grandma and my aunt were talking to the hospice nurse while mom and I watched grandpa. As we sat there we noticed that the color was draining from his skin. He forehead turned grey, then his nose, cheeks, chin, etc. At this point I started crying, I just knew what was happening. Mom knew too and she started balling. Then grandpa stopped breathing for about 10 seconds, then started again. Mom yelled for the hospice nurse to come over b/c she wanted her to do something. The hospice nurse checked his pulse and said I'm sorry he's passing now. Everyone crowded around grandpa balling as he took his last breathes. It
lasted about 5 minutes and gave us all time to say our goodbyes. It was so sad but I thank God we were all there. It was so amazing to be able to be a part of such an wonderful event. He went so peacefully and looked to calm and ready. Afterwards we called all the family and everyone came and said their goodbyes. About 2 hours later the funeral home came to take him. I stayed back to say my goodbyes alone b/c I'm not good at expressing so much emotion in front of everyone. Well I was standing watching grandma say her goodbye and as she walked away, a huge tear rolled down his left cheek. It was so amazing. He had been gone 2 hours at this point and he cried when she walked away. It was so sad, but it was soooo amazing to witness such a beautiful relationship. They had been together 60 years this year, 60 years. So the funeral is tomorrow morning at 11am. I'll be around tomorrow night, but probably not too much tonight. If anyone needs anything just email me.
Sorry about the rambling. It felt good to share this with you all though. Thank you for listening. Lisa
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